Reasons Why You Hesitate to Open Up about Your Feelings


Not everyone feels comfortable sharing their thoughts and feelings with others. You might be one of these people. If you have a difficult time opening up, it is understandable. You cannot expect everyone to be an open book. Some people prefer to keep their thoughts to themselves.

It does not mean though that you cannot share a part of yourself with anyone else. It is also essential that someone listens to you. Sometimes, things can be too much to take, and without anyone guiding you in the process, it could lead to psychological problems.

The first thing is to understand why you feel that way. Once you find a way to combat that hesitation to open up, you will gradually learn to do it.

Your parents raised you that way

Perhaps, at home, your parents were too strict when you were growing up. Instead of saying something, you needed to contain it. You also could not express your opinions on any issue. As such, when you grew up, you learned how to keep things to yourself. It could also be because your parents were overwhelming. They were always loud, and their voices were the only ones that mattered at home. For fear of getting scolded, you ended up not telling them how you feel.

You do not feel comfortable with the people around you

It is also difficult to speak up when you do not trust the people around you. You fear that they will judge you or laugh at you for being too emotional. You also worry that they will spread confidential information about you to other people. When no one in your inner circle is worthy of your trust, you feel like you only have yourself.

You have a lot of secrets

You worry that when you start opening up, you will expose your skeletons in the closet. You would rather stay silent than end up divulging information that could be devastating for you or others. It is quite common for victims of sexual abuse to feel this way. They fear that they will open up events in the past that they have already tried to bury deep down. It could also be due to sexual identity issues that people are not comfortable talking about their feelings.

You hate yourself

Some people feel this way towards themselves. They feel like they are not good enough. They do not think that they are pretty or handsome compared with others. Low self-esteem leads to awkward social interactions and the inability to open up.

Now that you understand these reasons, you can deal with those struggles and learn to open up. Again, it is not vital that you share everything with others, but you need to share how you feel. You can also seek help from professionals so you can undergo therapy and sort out the issues you have inside you that prevent you from opening up. When you finally learn to let go of those feelings, you can be the best version of yourself.

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