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A Rumble grumble

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I just added a couple of photos of my latest foster baby: Rumble. She is a sweet natured little thing that was starting to turn mean because some idiot had taught her that aggressive attack/play fighting was a cute game.
She came to me because there wasn't enough room at the shelter and she needed a place to stay until a space opened up. She had just been fixed and was the sweetest little thing you could hope for. After a few days she began to relax and feel better. She wanted to play. She jumped up on the table rolled on her back and waved her paws at me. I reached over and got a surprise, a nasty surprise. She snarled grabbed at my wrist, started to kick at my arm and gnaw my hand. I hollered in surprise (and a little pain) and grabbed her by the neck to hold her. She tossed a angry hissy fit for a while. I held her until she began to calm down and left her alone. A few hours later she was insulted but calm.
A couple of days later she forgave me and wanted to cuddle. The affection included a bratty little love nip. When I yelped and told her "NO" she hunched down in an aggressive defence crouch. She acted like she was about to be attacked. I held her by the scruff of the neck and calmed her down. When she realized that she was not going to get hit she calmed down and went off to pout.
Some idiot had taken a kitten and taught it to growl, attack and fight. When she got older and the play got out of hand they must have started yelling and hitting her.
I have spent the last couple of weeks teaching her that "No" doesn't mean "duck and cover" it just means stop doing that.
Something seemed to click inside of her the other day. She had grabbed at me when I was trying to adjust the blinds. I held her on the table and talked to her. One second her ears were back, a growl was in her throat and she tried to bite. The next second she just stopped. Her whole body relaxed. Her ears came forward and the growl vanished. I don't know if she had learned something or just wanted to shut me up. Her sweeter nature had taken over.
Rumble is learning to talk when she wants attention instead of nipping. She stills grabs my hand but now she kisses it and begs for one in return. The word no makes her stop and look for a command instead of a blow. She is laying by my feet, purring as I write this. She will leave me soon. I am afraid that the older nasty play/fight behavior might be triggered by rough play so, I don't think that she can go to a family with younger children or an inexperienced/first cat household. But I do think that she can... no WILL make someone a great companion.



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I love the way you're retraining her, but that name of hers is a contradiction. I find myself praying her name will reflect her sweetness, not the poor kitten that some jerk taught to be so aggressive!

ourstaff
ourstaff
2 months ago
I was tempted to rename her but decided not to. I want the name to stick with her until she is adopted (fingers crossed). I will ask have a brief explanation attached about how she was taught to "play fight" and the work was done in foster care to stop the behavior. I am afraid that she will be a little on the ratty side for a long time and I want people to make an informed choice before taking her.

My 23 year old son has a tendency to rough play,without the yelling or screaming at the cat part.He doesn't hurt the cat,he just doesn't realize that I really don't play that way at all period with any of my animals.
The other Day I was playing with Cosmo-the most lovable cat in the world,and when I gently patted his side,he flipped over and started biting and scratching like you mentioned earlier,and I was so in shock!!
The last couple of days,when he starts to try it,I've been stopping him with "be nice-give Mommy kisses" which seems to make him snap out of it.
It's crazy,because my son's not around often,and most times don't even see my cats,and yet a few occasions were enough for Cosmo.
I think he'll be back to normal in no time,and I truly hope that you can make Rumble do the same.Good Luck!

I hope you will stress to your adult son that such play is not allowed with pets in your home. At 23, he may think it's cute, but that testosterone is flowing and he's leaving traumatized animals (and maybe you, too!) in its wake. Many men's urge to dominate, no matter what, is a major part of the issues we're seeing with animals that have been "trained" to misbehave. Yes, there are women out there that think such behavior is cute, too, but I think they are far outnumbered by the Type A (for Aggressive) guys. Just a thought. My own dad tried growling at Wiggles Blue Heeler a time or two when I was visiting, and I told him firmly that THAT was a No-No! Wiggles has a life where I ask him to give me a toy, he simply lets go of it and I say, "Thank you!" That teasing with toys and food that make a pet feel the need to protect and defend their toys / food can become a real monster. Sure, playing pully-pully is fine, but getting in a dog's face and growling is, IMHO, totally unnecessary and invites trouble.

ourstaff
ourstaff
3 months ago
I doubt if it takes that long to teach a cat to play rough. I think it is partly instinctive capture behavior and fun. The problem is when they do it to someone who does not know how to react. You know how to deal with bratty behavior. Rumble would be fine living with someone like you. The problem is that ,if most people are like me, their instinctive behavior is to yell in pain and swat. I have learned not to do that (the hitting part). The cat gets hit and it starts to become fearful and mean. When they get too mean they end up homeless.

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