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Q: Will my cats ever get along?

December 22, 2008 | By Stephanie | 18 answers | Expired: 1930 days ago

Stephanie

I recently got a new, female cat and both of my male cats, who are bonded and who have been together for 3 years hate her! :-( they hiss and growl and bat at her even when she tried to lick them. It's been a week I've had her now and I know that is still early but I feel like my two boy cats have ganged up on her. I want them all to get along. My toby gets so jealous if I hold her or pet her. He gives me the evil eye and runs from me. Why can't we all just get along? How long is this going to last? will they ever make peace?

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Jello1
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Dec 28, 2008

In my experience it sometimes takes months to get things to settle down. The new cat needs a place to go to feel safe and hopefully there can be someone around to monitor for any violence. You do need to give the most attention to your older cats and leave the new one to make her way into the group as best she can.

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Jamie B.
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Dec 23, 2008

Did you introduce them slowly to each other? Let them get used to her scent.

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Jennifer  M.
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Dec 22, 2008

I am in a similar situation. My older male cat is very independent and rules our house. When I decided to adopt a kitten I chose a female, less threatening, and it has been 6 weeks now. They get along only for brief periods when they play. When my male has had enough, he hides outside where my kitty can not go yet. I think it takes a lot of time.

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Mary Lee B.
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Dec 22, 2008

They'll eventually get along, but in the meantime, I recommend that you pay all sorts of attention to your males and much less attention to the new kitty. This may seem harsh, but being clear about the pecking order--and your males know that they were there first and have earned the top cat position, if you will. When they feel that you are acknowledging their status, they'll be more tolerant of the new cat. And she'll adapt to her role in the family at this point. That position may change eventually, but for the sake of everyone's feelings (and peace in the house!) you'd do well to praise your males and pet them tons so they don't pick on the female. At least that's my experience.

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Angel M.
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Dec 22, 2008

We have went through this a few times and are now going through it again. Our new cat, Giles, and our older cat, Poe have been at it for the past two weeks. It seems to be getting a little better each day. Last night they were both laying under the table without fighting, which was a first. It will take a lot of time and patience, but they will either end up geing great friends or just tolerate each other. Either way , it will bet easier.

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Nichole B.
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Dec 22, 2008

I can almost guarantee that your cats will get along. we had a problem with all of our male cats getting along with my older female cat. She would hiss at all of them and bat at them even her own son. But now it has been about three months since we have had all 6 of them together and they get along perfectly well. it may take a little while but they will most likely get along.

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Freeman796
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Dec 22, 2008

Some cats may learn only to tolerate each other's presence in the house and will not form any bonds. They may just stay away from each other. You'll need to give it a lot more time to see what happens. As long as there are no serious cat fights where injury occurs, then I would not worry. Your cats may not be happy about her presence, but they may be able to learn to live with it. Also, it helps to gradually introduce the new cat. Provide her with a separate room and kitty litter if possible. You'll just need to give them all some time to adjust to the new situation.

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marcia h.
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Dec 22, 2008

There was an episode of the Dog Whisperer on tv this weekend with people who had a dog and cat who didn't get along. Cesar Milan considered a case of dominance with the cat actually the agressor even though it appeared to be the victim.

He corrected both animals when they showed aggression and gradually brought them closer together until the learned to ignore each other.

I don't know if it would work for other people but it seemed to work for him

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Rhonda T.
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Dec 22, 2008

cats are a peculiar animal. I had 5 cats in the house at one time. The oldest and first cat will tolerate most of the the cats except the boys. They still don't get along after 10 years. They give each other their space but occasionally there is a cat fight, which the dog breaks up rather quickly.
My daughter brought home a kitten from college break and it wants to be friends with them all. My 3 year old cat will have nothing to do him, he hisses and runs away.

So, I really think it depends on their personality. Good Luck! Just make sure you have enough food, water, litter areas so they don't have to be afraid of going there.

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Amy H.
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Dec 22, 2008

I have the same problem. I have a6 year old cat and 2 7 month old kittens. )one kitten I just got a few weeks ago). The two kittens get along fine but my older cat just wants to be left alone. After a while they will all get along some. They may never be best friends ut be able to live in harmony. Good Luck

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