Q: Can my cats live with each other?
I started with two older cats - a boy and a girl. A couple years ago the female was passed away. The remaining male cat had become very friendly with us and had settled into being the center of attention. Recently, we adopted a kitten at 2 months old. She is now about 4 months and my older cat is spending less and less time in the house. Everything that I've read says to introduce them slowly, we have a limited amount of space and only one door in our apartment which closes off our bathroom and we did the best we could to introduce them slowly, but I've also read a lot of advice columns saying that you sould make sure to spend large amounts of time with your first cat to make sure that he still feels important, etc. Our older cat doesn't want hardly anything to do with us. He will play but only for a short time. He will sleep, but only for a short time. And he will hardly let us pet him or love on him at all. We try to spend time with him, but he doesn't want to spend time with us. He wants to go outside all the time, and we have been letting him go out a lot because we don't want him to tear apart the house when he is frustrated and angry, but I'm not sure if that is the right thing to do. We are very sad that he doesn't want to spend time with us anymore. Is there anything we can do to convince him that this is still his home and that he is still our #1 other than getting rid of the kitten? She is wonderful, but very playful, but I do think she is learning that he is not a playmate for her. If she can learn to play alone or with us and not try to play with him, over time will that make him feel at home again? I feel that a big issue here may be that our house now smells a lot like her and he may not think that he belongs here anymore? Is there anything I can do about that or is there anything I can do to make the house smell like both cats?
Aug 10, 2010
we have a cat thats 4years old. she is crabby she likes us but not any of the other pets. We got a kitten (who is now 1year) and she has never liked her. my advice is dont push him on the kitten if hes not showing any interest. Just let him do his own thing.
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Aug 11, 2010
You may want to give it some more time. Continue to spend as much time with your older male cat to show him that he is still loved. He may never bond with the new female kitty like he had with the cat who passed away. As your new kitten begins to settle down, he may spend more time indoors. I've introduced several cats to my household over the past few years and it is always interesting to see how cats adjust differently and how daily love and lap time and they all live peacefully. Hang in there!
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Aug 15, 2010
It sounds like you are trying your best. I've had a very similar situation with my two 2-year old neutered males and a female kitten. They were going outside all day one one adult cat was very upset. I recently took the kitten to a shelter. I didn't want to but it was best for my furry family. If you can hang in there things may get better. You definitely can't push the adult on the kitten. Maybe he would spend time with you when he is outside. Does he hiss or growl at the kitten's scent? I've heard it can help to get the adult used to the newcomer's scent. I really hope things work out for you.
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